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actions and reasons, pt. 1

Dear angel,

I've been thinking of some of the things that I do in my role as the dominant male in our relationship. I've been inspired by Bliatz's "Mind Clit" post, and I've decided to describe and try to explain some of these things. Some of them are overtly sexual, but many of them are not. You probably have noticed all of these things, but you may not have understood the reasoning behind them.

Pull your hair - gently - in public.
Sometimes when we're in a hidden spot in a store, or when we're sitting together on a subway, or when we're waiting in line.

Tell you when you're being a brat.
I love it when you're a brat, and you love playing the role. But when I tell you you're a brat, you know that I've got the authority over you.

Put you over my knee and spank you for being a brat.
This lets you know when you've gone too far, and it lets you know that you can be as free and naughty as you want to be, because I'll be there to keep you in line.

Tease you, verbally, whenever possible.
I misinterpret what you say, I use double entendres whenever possible, and I remind you of things we've done together whenever the subject goes anywhere near them.

Hold the back of your neck when I kiss you.
It's a deliberate sensual act that stimulates sensitive spots on your skin, and also reminds you of my power.

Take a fist full of hair when I kiss you.
You love the feeling, and I love the way it gives me control of your head. When I've got your hair in my fist, *I* decide when the kiss is over, not you.

Take a fist full of hair when you have my cock in your mouth.
You react differently when you're sucking my cock and your hair is pulled. You get more aggressive, more blatantly sexual, than when you're sucking it on your own.

Tie you to the bed, and pleasure you.
One of my favourite things to do to you, angel. Seeing you helpless, and seeing the look in your eyes, and hearing the different voice you use when you're tied, is intoxicating.

Pause during sex, and make you beg me to keep going.
This is one of your favourite things that I do - even if you won't admit it, angel. And when you realize that I've got all the power, and you have to do what I asked or do without the pleasure, your attitude changes, and you become more wanton than before.

Hold you down with one hand while I spank you with the other.
There's something powerful in doing this. Sometimes the hand is on your neck, sometimes it's in your hair. Sometimes you struggle, but usually, you just whimper and moan during the spanking.

Make you cry by spanking you.
There's something wonderful in this, because you're not crying because I spanked you. Its crying from release of some sort, according to what you tell me. Afterwards, once I've stopped spanking you, you're embarassed, but obedient and passionate. It's taken me a while to understand your reaction, angel, because at first I thought you were'nt enjoying it. But I know now that you want and need this, and I think it's a wonderful part of our play together.

Make you stop talking when you start to babble to me.
Yes, angel, sometimes, you babble. Sometimes you start talking about something, and change subjects before we've finished discussing them. And when you do, interrupt you, and firmly place the conversation back where I want it to be.

These are only some of the things that I do, and I'll post more at a later time. Can you think of things that you do that are similar, angel? I know that there are some things that you do deliberately to make me feel dominant, but are you aware of them?


posted at 12:15 PM :: Comments (5)
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Another lovely post Neko.

You don't mind if I used it as a checklist, do you? :-) Just kidding, but I do do pretty much all of these to C. Great minds think alike, huh?

— posted by: B. on November 3, 2004 06:00 PM

It's easy to see why your weblog continues to attact more and more attention. Your writing is genuine and evocative.

For me, there's almost always a sense of deja vu ...so many of the things you speak of, so many of the things you and your angel do, are remarkably similar to what goes on in the wonderful life that L and I share.

Please do keep up the great work.

— posted by: John on November 3, 2004 08:43 PM

Great minds think alike, but fools seldom differ, eh?

I like to try to articulate many of the things going on in my and other's relationships, and try to help others learn the lessons I learned through trial and error. That's still the only way to REALLY learn about anything, but hopefully people can read about my experiences and observations, and feel a little less "in the woods" than I did when I started.

Besides - it gets angel all hot and bothered to read about herself here. ;-)

— posted by: Neko on November 3, 2004 09:00 PM

Very nice. Very articulate, and a couple of good ideas. This is my first time reading your blog but I assure you not my last.

Sir D

— posted by: Sir Deaglan on November 4, 2004 09:29 AM

Great post Neko, MJ and i are learning a lot from You and angel. And thanks for adding us to Your link list ;) Take care

— posted by: temptation on November 4, 2004 04:07 PM


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