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skills and characteristics

Dear angel,

As you know, I think about us a lot. There is so much to learn in this world, and the more I learn, the more I find that I need to know. When I'm with you, angel, I strive to be the best Dom that I know how to be. So far, it seems to be working. But I've found myself thinking about what it takes to be a Dom, and I've compiled a little list.

No doubt that this list is incomplete. There are probably things that should be added to it. There may be things on it that aren't as important to others as they are to me. Nonetheless, here are some things that I feel are important in my role as your Dom.

Tying Knots

As a bare minimum, a Dom needs to know a few basic knots. A Dom should know:

Tying the submissive

There are different reasons for tying up a sub. For each different reason, there is a different method. A Dom should know:

The Toy Bag.

All toys must be stored in a proper fashion. For us, the toy bag is where we store all our various accessories. A Dom should:


You know that I love to tease, angel. I find that teasing is an integral part of our relationship, and as such, there are some things that I need to know how to do. I have to know:


I *know* how you love to be spanked, angel. I know that the feeling of my hand on your ass turns you on. As your Dom I must know:

Knowing my sub

This is more than just play, angel. You have taken a place in my heart, and I want to be your partner, and I want you to be mine. To ensure this, I have to:

Maintaining the relationship

Like all relationships, there are aspects of give and take. In our relationship, I have to:

Protecting my sub

There will be times when you will find yourself beset with troubles, angel. Sometimes these troubles will be inflicted by others, sometimes they will be caused by your own actions. I have to:


The relationship between a Dom and his sub is like any other relationship, only more so. There are equal parts indulgence and discipline. Control is given and taken at different times. As a Dom, I must:

As I said, angel, there are probably more things that I could add. I know there are probably some that I *should* add. But this list is some of what I'm thinking about when I'm not with you. These are some of the ways that I try to ensure that we stay together for a long time.

I know I'm looking forward to it.


posted at 12:57 PM :: Comments (2)
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This is one of the best posts about domming I have ever read! It puts into words so many things I have been trying to explain to my man. Spot on! Thank you so very, very much for taking your time to reflect upon these things!

— posted by: Bliatz on October 10, 2004 07:10 AM

What a wonderful post. Thank you.

I'm tempted to print this out, frame it and put it on my desk as a reminder to myself.


(P.S. found you from Bliatz's blog)

— posted by: B. on October 11, 2004 05:35 PM


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