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Dearest angel,

Why do I spank thee?

Let me count the ways...

When I start spanking you, there is a wonderful erotic sound that rises every time my hand contacts your skin. It varies, from the soft dull tap of my fingers, to the ringing clap of sound that rises when my whole hand hits your buttocks *just* right. And with each stroke, you make a corresponding sound. Sometimes it's a gasp, when the stroke stings. Sometimes it's a whimper, when it hurts a little. Sometimes it's a cry of pain, if the stroke is particularly hard. But after each little sound, you wriggle your ass, and present it to me again. And the whimper of anticipation that you make, between each stroke, when I'm stroking your burning cheeks with my hand, or with the paddle, seem to echo in my head when we're apart. If I close my eyes and listen, I can sometimes hear you making that sound, and it makes me want you, every time.

There's also something tremendously erotic about the sight of you bent over the bed, waiting for me to begin. Whether your hands are tied so that you are helpless, or untied so that you are obedient. Just the sight of your beautiful ass waiting for my touch, stirs me. Or when I've put you over my knee, and you hide your face in your hair, aroused and embarassed at the same time. And the way your pussy gets wet, and swollen, as I spank you, showing me exactly how much you are enjoying it, regardless of what you say at the time. That, my dearest angel, is a delightful, powerful, sight.

The feel of your weight over my knee, or the feel of my cock against your hot, sore cheeks drives me wild, you know. It strains my self control, every time I spank you, to see you, writhing and wanton on the bed. Seeing you wriggling, and feeling the heat rising from your skin, feeling the wetness of you, dripping against my hand, is almost enough to make me take you before I'm done spanking you. Feeling you wriggle back against my hand, as I probe your depths, as I spank you, as I dominate you, shows me how much my girl loves me, how much she trusts me, and how much she wants to be mine.

And that's the final reason I spank you, dearest angel. Because it makes you feel submissive. Because it makes you happy. Because it turns you on, and because it turns me on. Sometimes I spank you because I feel like it, because I want to be in control. Sometimes, I spank you because you want to be made to feel submissive. Sometimes I spank you because you're a brat, and you need to be kept in line. Sometimes I spank you because it gets you wet. Each and every time I do this, I do it with love. I do it because it's a part of us both. I do it because it's part of what makes our relationship work.

I don't spank you because I'm angry with you. I don't spank you because I want to hurt you. I don't spank you because you need to be punished. Anger does not mix well with Dominance and submission, dear one. When I am angry with you, we will argue. We will fight. We will air out what needs to be discussed. I may spank you because I am fed up with you being a brat. I may spank you because I think it will arouse you. But I won't spank you because I'm angry with you. Spanking, for me, is a way to show you that I love you. As messed up as that might sound, it's true. I spank you because I love you, angel.


posted at 02:30 PM :: Comments (8)
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That was just beautiful, Neko! The most wonderful reason for spanking your girl - love!

Btw, great blog. I put a link to your old blog up some time ago and just recently discovered that you moved (been a bit on the slow side reading the blogs I link to).

Nice new "place" you got yourself here - and sweet letters to you angel. Warms my heart ;-)

— posted by: Urbanstud on October 12, 2004 06:29 PM


Just found your blog courtesy of SpankingBlog.

What a beautiful, touching and wonderful post. I'm avidly reading your archives now, and I hope you don't mind that I've linked to you.

All the best.


— posted by: B. on October 12, 2004 07:22 PM

Likewise, found your blog courtesy of Spanking Blog (and Bliatz a day or two earlier).

Plan on devouring the archives when I get a free moment :)

— posted by: C. on October 12, 2004 07:29 PM

Thanks for the comments, guys. Much appreciated. I know that angel loves the posts (because, of course, she tells me so...) but it's always nice to hear that others also enjoy my ramblings.

Urbanstud - nice to hear that you followed me here. Angel helped with the decorating - nice eh? Hope your new template turns out as nicely.

B - by all means, link away. Tell your friends! Bring the family - oh wait - this isn't quite family material, is it?

C - enjoy the archives, but please don't leave any crumbs behind. We don't want to attract any mice, do we?

And, as always, welcome to all readers, new and old.


— posted by: Neko on October 13, 2004 08:36 AM

Same story here: found you thanks to Bliatz' praise and she was not wrong. I got about half way through the archives, saving the other half for tomorrow --very impressive writing. Your angel is one lucky girl! I'm linking you too.

As for the entry above, I especially liked the last paragraph about not spanking in anger. But the whole thing was terrific, in fact.
(p.s. can you please tell me exactly how to abuse the comments?)

— posted by: Claire on October 13, 2004 06:56 PM

Well, Claire,

Thank you for the praise. I feel it's especially important to separate anger and BDSM. I haven't yet gotten angry at my angel, although I have been briefly annoyed. But then, I'm a patient man.

Oh - and the abuse of the comments statement is there to warn spammers not to pollute the site. Oh - wait - why do I think you were trying to figure out how to get a spanking out of me? ;-)


— posted by: Neko on October 13, 2004 09:58 PM


I found your blog through *Her Desires* blog and am so glad that I took the opportunity to read a few of your letters to Angel. How lucky she is to have such a skilled partner. I too am a little envious of her fortune.

I've recently become aware of the effects of a good Dom, though mine has not made it to spanking yet. Hopefully I can get him to read your blog with me (or on his own) soon. It's hard to be a subbie trying to get your Dom to be more dominant, if that makes sense.

And if you don't mind, I'd like to link your blog. Though mine is new (less than a week), I'm finding quite a few great blogs to read and use for inspiration, in addition to my daily life.

— posted by: Devlyn on November 30, 2004 05:42 AM

I just want to add (as a newbie here) that I appreciate the way you are with your wife. My husband has tried and at times succeeded in giving me what I've needed, and other times they were "duds", but we were late entering into the spanking part of D/s. As a severely abused child himself he finds it difficult to inflict pain on me, yet he has done so because he knows it's a need I have. However it doesn't happen often, and I'd love for it to be a part of our daily life--maybe not EVERY day, but often. How did you achieve where you are? Was it just natural in both of you? Any advice for how to get more active in things?


— posted by: nightangel on March 27, 2005 12:15 AM


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